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I don’t want to beat a dead horse to the ground, but I wanted to put in my two cents worth on the recent article, “Nerd Girls take on ‘sexist’ industry” posted here:

For those that know me well, you know that I don’t comment or blog unless it is something that strikes a cord with me or I am passionate about the subject at hand.  What I am about to write, some people may agree with me, some disagree with me and some just think that I am just full of shit. (Pardon my French) But that’s okay…I accept that and I even encourage people to take my view and mull it over…good or bad.

Now, getting back to the main topic at hand, if you were to look back in history, discrimination and stereotyping has been in existence for as long as we can remember.  Whether it is sex, race or religion, it is a reality.  And for women, they have always had an uphill battle with equality.  Even though things have gotten better over time, unfortunately it still exists.

I for one have been a victim of discrimination and stereotyping.  Being a minority woman with a small stature, it always has been an uphill battle for me to gain respect.  But I took that as being a way to grow, improve and challenge myself.  In some ways, all the discrimination and stereotyping has made me who I am today.

Now lets be honest with ourselves, we all have discriminated and stereotyped others at one time or another.  We see it all the time…on TV, in advertising, etc.  Just look at the Super Bowl ads…beer commercials with sexy women, car advertisements with gorgeous girls.  Bottom line, sex sells, subliminal or not.  We are all guilty in stereotyping with such stereotypes as secretaries are just “sexitaries” and don’t have brains, or that football players are not smart, or that all “nerd” girls wear glasses and are unattractive.  As much as we don’t like it, its something we deal with every day.

And what about those women that work in a male dominated career field?  Do they have to work harder and smarter to gain that respect?  Possibly, maybe, yes…I suppose it depends on who you are and whom you are talking to.  Do we, as women have to become brass and wear a chip on our shoulder to prove to ourselves and to others that we belong?

So what do you do with all this and how do you deal with it on an individual level?  My personal belief as well as personal experience, it all boils down to how you perceive yourself.  Ask yourself these questions:

  • Are you happy with whom you are?
  • Are you happy with what you do?
  • Are you confident in what you do?
  • Do you feel you are making a difference?

If you can answer yes to all these questions, then what does it matter what industry does or says?  Who cares if a woman that works in a male dominant field wears dresses and has a pink iPhone case?  Kudos to her!  To me, this tells me she is comfortable with who she is regardless of what others think or perceive her to be.

Don’t let discrimination, stereotyping and industry protocol mold you into something you are not.  Be proud of who you are (Yes, I AM WOMAN, hear me ROAR)

Worry about things you can change and not on things you cannot.  The Serenity Prayer (as cliché’ as it may be) has some very powerful words to live by:

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

The courage to change the things I can,

And wisdom to know the difference.”

As much as we would like to change the way industry perceives women in a male dominant field, it’s not going to change for a long time.  Accept it, embrace it and be all who you can be.  If you can, I guarantee, life will be much easier and you will be a lot happier.

So Kudos to all the women out there – Nerd girls, homemakers, doctors, lawyers, secretaries, administrative assistant, teachers, nannies or whatever you do…. You can and do make a difference and that is all that matters.



Dear Mom in Heaven

I sit here and ponder how very much

I’d like to talk with you today.

There are so many things

That we didn’t get to say

I know how much you care for me

And how much I care for you.

And each time I think of you,

I know you’ll miss me too.

An angel came and took you by the hand and said,

Your place was ready in Heaven, far above…

And you had to leave behind all those you dearly loved.

You had so much to live for, you had so much to do…

It still seems impossible that God was taking you.

And though your life on earth is past, in Heaven it starts anew.

You’ll live for all eternity, just as God has promised you.

And though you’ve walked through Heaven’s gate

We are never far apart

For every time I think of you,

You’re right here, deep within my heart

Mom, we are thinking of you on your birthday.  We talk of you still.  We haven’t forgotten you and we never will.  With love always,  your daughters…Kathy, Elaine, Gayle and Kelly

Rest in peace Dani…we love you…

Painting of Dani by Erin Varner

My nephew just graduated from high school this last Saturday!  He will be attending Otterbein college next year and will also play soccer for them!  Congratulations Adam and best wishes!

Adam - Graduation 2009

Mary Ujifusa

Mary Ujifusa

One year ago today, my grandmother passed away.  Today I am posting this blog in remembrance of such a wonderful woman, mother, grandmother and great grandmother.

You are dearly missed grandma.  May you rest in peace.

This is a oldie, but goodie….

Dear Tech support:

Last year I upgraded from Boyfriend 5.0 to Husband 1.0 and noticed a distinct slow down in overall system performance, particularly in the flower and jewelry applications, which operated flawlessly under Boyfriend 5.0.

In addition, Husband 1.0 uninstalled many other valuable programs, such as Romance 9.5 and Personal Attention 6.5 and then installed undesirable programs such as MLB 6.1, NBA 5.0, NFL 3.0 and Golf Clubs 4.1.

Conversation 8.0 no longer runs, and Housecleaning 2.6 simply crashes the system. I’ve tried running Nagging 5.3 to fix these problems, but to no avail.

What can I do?


First keep in mind, Boyfriend 5.0 is an Entertainment Package, while Husband 1.0 is an operating system. Please enter command: ithoughtyoulovedme.html and try to download Tears 6.2 and don’t forget to install the Guilt 3.0 update. If that application works as designed, Husband 1.0 should then automatically run the applications Jewelry 2.0 and Flowers 3.5. But remember, overuse of the above application can cause Husband 1.0 to default to Grumpy Silence 2.5 , Happy Hour 7.0 or Beer 6.1. Please note that Beer 6.1 is a very bad program that will download the Snoring Loudly Beta.

Whatever you do, DO NOT install Mother-In-Law 1.0 (it runs a virus called Satan 666 in the background that will eventually seize control of all your system resources.)

Also do not attempt to reinstall Boyfriend 5.0 program. These are unsupported applications and will crash Husband 1.0.

In summary, Husband 1.0 is a great program, but it does have limited memory and cannot learn new applications quickly. You might consider buying additional software to improve memory and performance. We recommend Cooking 3.0 and Hot Lingerie 7.7.

Good Luck,

Tech Support

This weekend, Bruce and Matt put together an on-line tour of IdeaJam.  Now you can tour the application virtually and see all the features and functionality of the product first hand!

Both did an EXCELLENT job of putting together the small video clips.  Each had their own style, but both covered the product in great detail.  It’s a fast and easy way to educate yourself on the product.  Of course, if you would like to have a one-on-one demo with you and your team members, we are available to schedule one at your convenience.

So, while you are surfing the net, take a gander at our website,, and take a few minute out of your day to watch the on-line video of IdeaJam.  I am sure you will find it informative and interesting.  Have fun!

Oh yeah, one more thing I forgot to mention….I just want to state for the record, that I am glad that Bruce is done recording the video clips….now I can actually do stuff around the house without worrying about making any noise!  😉

Leroi Moore

Leroi Moore

As most of you know, Bruce and I are huge fans of the Dave Matthews Band. We were in Pullman, WA when we heard about Leroi’s death. Needless to say, we were both in shock and disbelief.

We have been going to their concerts here at the Gorge at least since 2002. (Bruce has gone longer than I have) This is the first year that we will NOT be going to their concert at the Gorge this summer. (We chose not to go this year due to many other activities this summer and could not fit this into our schedule)

Bruce and I are saddened by the sudden loss of such a key member of the band. It will be hard to imagine what the band will sound like and what they will do in the future. However, I think that Dave Matthews summed it up the best from his quote/excerpt from their site

“There’s no place I’d rather be than here with you guys right now.” We cherish special memories of our lost friend. Tonight, Dave told a story about LeRoi at a bar in Virginia where the cash register was near the stage and LeRoi leaned on the register because “standing had become a chore”. Roi proceeded to play the most beautiful version of Somewhere Over The Rainbow. Dave said, “that was the day I fell in love with him. And I’m still in love with him.” It’s safe to say we all were in love with him. “It’s always easier to leave, than to be left.”

Rest in peace Leroi, you will be dearly missed!

RIP – Tribute to Leroi Moore video:

The American Heart Association just recently conducted a survey to find the top “heart-friendly” cities for women.

The top ten on the list are:

1. Minneapolis-St. Paul-Bloomington, MN

2. Washington-Arlington-Alexandria, DC

3. San Francisco-San Jose-Oakland, CA

4. Denver-Aurora, CO

5. Boston-Cambridge-Quincy, MA

6. Seattle-Tacoma-Bellevue, WA

7. Portland-Vancouver-Beaverton, OR

8. San Diego-Carlsbad-San Marcos, CA

9. Los Angeles-Long Beach-Santa Ana, CA

10. Phoenix-Mesa-Scottsdale, AZ

The 10 least heart-friendly cities are:

1. Nashville-Davidson-Murfreesboro, TN

2. St. Louis, MO

3. Detroit-Warren-Livonia, MI

4. Pittsburgh, PA

5. Dallas-Fort Worth-Arlington, TX

6. Columbus, OH

7. Cincinnati-Middletown, OH

8. Las Vegas-Paradise, NV

9. Cleveland-Elyria-Mentor, OH

10. Indianapolis, IN

The study focused on the 200 largest metro areas in the United States, which are home to nearly 75% of the nation’s population. The research analyzed 22 factors for each location including smoking, obesity, cardiac mortality rate and regular exercise amongst women.

I can’t believe how fast this school year has gone by! I just looked at the calendar and realized that the kids only have a couple of months before school is over for the summer! There is so much to do before the school year ends!

Brandon graduates from high school (June 17) this year and we have tons of things that we are getting ready for. The school even has developed a “count down” list for the seniors! I am really excited for him as this will be a big milestone for him and for us.

He has chosen his college (he had 4 other colleges to choose from – Oregon State University, University of Portland, Western Washington University and Montana State) and has decided to go to Washington State University – Pullman. I believe he is going to go into the bio-technical field, although I am not 100% sure. His dad will be going with him to Freshman Orientation sometime mid-July. I won’t be able to go as Erin has Volleyball camp during that time and needs to be here if she is going to make the team next year. School starts on August 25, 2008 and he needs to be there to move into the dorms on August 17-20.

Its just hard to believe that I have a child going to college and is considered as an adult (who even gets to vote this year!) I still remember him the day he was born. I guess you don’t realize how time goes by until the major milestones happen in your child’s life.

As his special day gets closer (graduation) and as the time for us to wave “good bye” to him on his first day of college gets closer, I will continue to keep you posted.


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